Yesterday I was talking to my one of my colleagues, honestly she is more like a mentor and big sister. We were talking about managing stress. I’m not the best at holding people accountable and it can stress me out because I’m unlearning being Puddin.

One of the things I’ve mastered is surrounding myself with people that are #Goals. People that can that can teach me something and help me grow. She is definitely one of those people. She has taught me about emotional bank accounts.

In my professional world I manage a team of quality professionals in a goal driven environment. It can get stressful and leading these individuals sometimes includes helping them deal with stressors that aren’t really included in my scope of employment. I have to be there for them but there has to be a balance. Give and take. I look out, you look out ya know.

When we give to people we fill up their emotional bank accounts so that when it’s time for a withdrawal we won’t come up with insufficient funds nor should we be able to excuse the lack there of.

When I’m mindful of how much I’ve pour and how much I’ve received I’m at peace when I have to hold those I’m in relationship with accountable. I am able to without the guilt. I can cite the deposits I’ve made and ask for explanation for the lack of funds being available. There isn’t the fear of rejection. It is what it is.

It’s so much less stress this way. I don’t beg and plead, I just check my ledger. I don’t hold grudges but I do keep records. I monitor my spending habits so that I don’t end up depleted.

This here energy is on a budget.