Nah not enough, standing strong in boundaries and holding people around you accountable can mean you end up “losing”.

We talk boundaries and enforcement, but do we talk about how it can hurt the enforcer?

Holding my kids accountable sometimes feels like punishment for me. I can’t go to the arcade because they acted up, I love arcades!! They be blocking by not doing chores, I’m not rewarding people that don’t handle responsibilities.

Holding people at work accountable may mean I have more paper work or I have to end the relationship with employees that I’ve grown an affinity for, they be my other babies. And I have to turn em loose.

Holding my lovers accountable means that I now sleep alone, I’m a single mother and I don’t have anyone to rub my baby hairs when I’m tired of being “BossLady”.

Holding myself accountable doesn’t allow me to excuse my post being late. I chose to do other shit and I woke up later than 5am, these are consequences.

Accountability is abrasive on both sides.

Make sure you aren’t too soft.